Snuggle Syndrome..

So Raymond's been here almost 6 months and we are still snuggling...too much! I thought it would taper off but that isnt happening..YET! As I explained before, every time we sit on the couch it has to be a snuggle fest. I try to sit at the computer most nights to have some personal space. As I'm sitting there Raymond keeps staring at me, and asking when he can snuggle with his wife. The bed is the biggest issue for me. Maybe because I've been sleeping by myself for so long and generally like to have my own space. Here's my latest solution. I sleep on my side facing Raymond and stick my elbows and knees out at a 90 degree angle. This causes him not to be able to "share" my pillow. I cant stand sharing my pillow. He complains that my knees are poking him, and I gently suggest that he scoot over (he sleeps right in the middle of the bed so we can snuggle). Then I also suggest he turn on his side and face the wall. This is my favorite position because I have control over the space. Regardless of my many strategies, I wake up numerous times during the night feeling smothered and HOT. I'm willing to give it more time BUT I need my sleep and my SPACE! Please, all my long time married friends, give me advice. A few nights Raymond has fell asleep on the couch watching TV, and I sleep fabulously!

On Sunday we had a couple over for lunch. Raymond met Isaac here, but Isaac is from Ghana. Isaac has been over to our house a few times and has always been polite. I didnt realize it but he is married and his wife lives in Hong Kong. She's also a US citizen. Bonnie arrived in the US last week so we planned to have them over. Within 2 minutes of Isaac and his wife arriving, she told me she was in a very difficult situation and very unhappy. For the next three hours we listened to them share very personal things about their marriage. Many times Isaac raised his voice and Raymond had to quiet him. One time Isaac raised his voice while Raymond had stepped out of the room to get lunch ready, and our dog Buddy started growling at Isaac. I was so uncomfortable, it seemed like his wife was a nice, honest, and very unhappy woman, and Isaac was an a__hole. I was so relieved when we finally encouraged them to leave our home. Needless to say, we wont be inviting them over anymore.